Dating Websites

Sarah posed an interesting question to me the other night. As we were watching tv, one of those match.com commercials appeared. Sarah turned to me and asked, “Do you think one of those dating websites would find us compatible?”

It was a good question. I think at the beginning when we were first starting to date, the answer would be no. We had such different interests at the time and were completely different from the type of people that we are now. But even if we could fill out one of those questionnaires today, while it would find us compatible, I don’t know if it would exactly match us together.

One of the greatest joys of marriage has been being able to take an interest in what each other likes. For instance, I have learned to enjoy shopping with her, because I know she enjoys it and wants me to come along. Along the way, I learned to clean up myself a bit too. As well, Sarah has learned to take an interest in the type of music I enjoy. She now enjoys indie rock and real hip-hop.

It’s going through that process that I have learned to give and take. I don’t know if I would have learned that if match.com were to just hook me with up someone who likes everything that I like. It’s going through that process of taking an interest in my wife’s interests, things that I don’t necessarily enjoy at first, that helps me break down the selfish areas in my own life.